Love yourself4/14/2018 Happy Saturday everyone! I hope you all had a good week and have an even better weekend! This week went by particularly slow, but was a good one despite it. Oh, and I just thought I should let you all know that my coffee this morning was perfect. Loving yourself is something that a lot of people struggle with, myself included. It's difficult to do when the world around us is so negative and filled with people who constantly put each other down. However, just because it's hard, doesn't mean it's impossible. I don't think I ever remember a time in my life where I truly just loved myself for who I am, until just recently. There were times where I didn't actively hate myself, but I always felt uncomfortable in my own skin. Like I didn't quite fit within myself, with other people, or with the generation I belong to. Then there were time where I have hated myself more than anything else on the planet. I know many people can relate, as sad as is. I think that I know more people who can't stand themselves than I know whom love themselves. Which is heartbreaking because we are all created so unique and wonderfully, how could any beautifully intricate human hate them-self? We are the most fascinating, and complex species on the planet, why do we think that we are meaningless and worth nothing? It simply doesn't make sense, yet so many people struggle with these negative thoughts of self hatred and feelings of not being good enough. One reason that I have discovered is that we often place our value or worth in things or people. The problem with that is, while people can be great, they disappoint, and while things are nice, they break. Nothing lasts forever. The only person you have from the moment you are born until your very last breath, 24/7, is yourself. If you place your worth in fleeting things you are never going to be happy. First you have to accept who you are as a person, and if you truly don't like yourself, change! That's the cool thing about us humans; were adaptable and we have control over who we want to be. It takes A LOT of work and self awareness to become who you want to be, but it is not impossible. Discover how to put your value upon yourself and find your true worth. Nobody else can show you how to love yourself, it comes from within. Please always remember that YOU are good enough and that you are worth so much, and nobody can take your value away from you, so don't hold yourself back. "Allow yourself to feel how you deserve to feel, happy." -Bert McCracken Allow yourself to grow. Allow yourself to love yourself. Allow yourself to be yourself. In order to fully love another person we must first love ourselves. I used to think that this phrase was crazy and so untrue, and I still believe it may not apply to all people, but I know personally when I figured out how to love myself, it made it easier to love others because I could focus all my energy into others rather than into my self hatred. Another quote from my favorite movie, The Perks of Being a Wallflower, is, "We accept the love we think we deserve." Think about this, if you hate yourself, you are going to believe that you deserve poor quality things, therefore you won't accept the love you truly deserve, but only the love you THINK you deserve. That is why people end up with people who treat them like a doormat. Think that you deserve more unto yourself, then demand it from others. If I have a daughter one day in the far future, one of the HUGE things I will stress to her is to NEVER let ANYONE devalue you or determine your worth. That it is 100% up to you. Especially not a boy. This goes for everyone reading this. Never let a person be your sole purpose of value or for living. NEVER. You are better than that, and you better believe it. Nobody is worth betraying yourself. Prioritize yourself above other people. "But Ellie, isn't that selfish?" Listen, is a huge difference between being selfish and prioritizing/taking care of yourself. Life is about balance, and you can put yourself and other people first, simultaneously. Just don't sink down to the last priority on your "care about" list. Don't let people walk all over you. know your worth, and teach everyone how to treat you in a corresponding manner. Don't depend on anyone but yourself, and don't let the unreliability of others make you cynical. People are good, but they disappoint because we aren't perfect. We are human and that's okay. You will most likely disappoint yourself, many times. Again, it's okay. Just don't let this disappointment consume you. Be sad, but don't make a home inside your sorrow. Allow it to be felt, then move along and learn from the pain. I can't stress to you all enough how important it is to love yourself. It took me a long time. I had to go through some pretty hard things to figure out what it meant to actually love myself. I had to hit rock bottom to have the want to get better, to find better, and to be better. I still have days where I'm a negative mess and I cant stand who I am or what I'm doing or anything about me. Days where I feel drained and down and done. (We all do, don't we?) Those days really are a struggle, but like I said, balance. You have to have the bad days to truly cherish the good ones. It is not an easy task at ALL to figure out how to break yourself free from the chains of self hatred, but I promise it is possible and so worth it. once you choose to try to love yourself, be prepared to choose to every single day from then on. It's a constant effort, but with time it becomes easier to accomplish. Trying is all we can do, friends. Just try and keep trying until you get to where you want to be, then maintain your progress. If you cant make a home that you love within yourself , you will spend your entire life uncomfortable. So please, if you only remember one sentence form this post let it be this one: Never let anyone tell you you're worthless, don't place your value in other people, but within yourself and keep trying no matter how hard it gets. You are good enough, so be kind with yourself and do the best you can. Be forgiving when you make mistakes and please, love yourself. With love,
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Why is it freezing in April?4/7/2018 Hello everyone! I just want to take this opportunity to say ITS WAY TOO COLD FOR APRIL. okay. Thats is all. Thanks for reading this weeks blog. Just kidding! So to start out this post, I want to share with you all that I got accepted into the college I have been wanting to go to! I’m excited to see where God takes me on this new journey that I’m about to embark on. It’s pretty scary and stressful but it’s going to be okay. I just know it. I plan to go to school to become a Diagnostic Medical Sonographer and I’m very excited. The program is very competitive to get into, and the schooling is going to take a lot of patience and diligence but hopefully it will all be worth it. I don’t know what the future may hold or what may happen throughout my life, but oh how exciting it could be. The possibilities are endless! My advice to the young and the old who are reading this is: don’t grow cynical about life no matter what hell it puts you through. Always remain hopeful because life becomes much less scary and much less upsetting when you look on the bright side. Yes, pessimism is a disease that infiltrates the minds of pretty much every human. Pessimistic moments and episodes are okay and absolutely normal, but don’t get trapped into looking on the downside of things. look up to the sky and see the stars when things are dark. Admire the clouds and the planes that fly by during the day and notice how the grass changes each day; how it turns green in the spring and dies from the heat of the summer. Pay attention to the new flowers your neighbor planted and the amount of miles you put on your car each day. See how little things like pennies you find add up. Just pay attention. Be aware of the detail because there is nothing more detailed than the little small things we constantly overlook. Life becomes art when you notice the different colors that surround us. Pay attention to the people around you. Notice their struggles and help them. Don’t take even one breath for granted because we don’t have as many as we all think we do. If you love someone, don’t be afraid. Love them completely, irrevocably and unconditionally. Don’t hold back. Don’t be afraid to be silly or awkward or too much or not enough. Just be. And life will just “be” right along with you. I know this post is short, but I’ve said all that I want to say for now. If you would like further discussion, feel free to comment, email me or contact me through social media. (Links in header above) So, until next week, drink water, eat substantial meals, tell someone you love them and take care of yourself, mentally and physically. With love, AuthorHello!
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