Friends and Foundations12/23/2017 Hello! It’s Saturday! We survived another week! I love simple Saturday mornings, especially when I get my coffee so perfect like I did today. It’s seriously heavenly. Anyway, I wanted to start off by letting you all know, that I’m going to be starting up an Email list. How it works is when you sign up for it, I send out an Email every Saturday (which is the day I post my blog every week) letting you know the blog is up and ready, with a link straight to the site from your Email. This makes it easy to access so you can enjoy reading it just as much as I enjoy writing it! There’s a form at the bottom of this post that I ask all of you who read this, to subscribe by entering your email and hitting the “subscribe to newsletter” button. It’s that simple and easy! Thank you in advance for the support! So, as you all know, Christmas is in a few days. (Yay!) im not sure if anyone else can relate to this, but I often get nostalgic around this time of year. I start to remeber what my life was like at this point of last year, and I reflect on how much has changed. A lot has changed within myself over the past year, I’ve grown a ton mentally and emotionally. Life is one big lesson and wisdom is the reward we gain from paying attention, and honestly, that’s extremely valuable. The main thing that’s on my mind lately, however, is the friendships I’ve built and lost in such a short amount of time. People I never would have imagined becoming so close to, are now my people, and ones that I never dreamed of losing, have drifted away from the grasp of my fingertips. This isn’t the first time I’ve experienced losing friends, perhaps losing isn’t a correct term, maybe “bidding farewell to” is more adequate. Part of living and growing is that past relationships change and diminish, but with every loss, there is a gain, so other relationships flourish. There was a time when I didn’t understand this. I felt so hurt that people I promised to stand by forever in our friendship, who promised me the same, just walked away as if I were a toy a young child left on the school bus. I questioned myself, “why wasn’t I good enough?”, “What did I do?”, “how could they still go after I have given my all?”. The answer is simple. Sometimes, God gives us people as tools to shape us into the human we’re supposed to be. These people are simply in our lives for a few months to a few years, and then they slowly leave. It hurts, because we can’t see what God is doing, so we feel abandoned instead of taught. However, that doesn’t change the fact that these temporary friends were in our lives for a purpose. It doesn’t change every laugh, cry, adventure, dark moment, heartbreak, victory and memory we shared with them. That’s something nobody can take away from you. On the other hand, sometimes people part ways because they push you out and hurt you until you just let them leave. Letting go doesn’t hurt any less than realizing someone has silently left your life. Just because you decided to let them part ways or even made that decision for them, doesn’t mean you won’t miss the times you shared. We are all just human, and we aren’t perfect. Life gets messy and some people just don’t know how to let other people be tools to help them grow, because they don’t realize they need watering. The thing is, everyone, no matter how old you are or where life has taken you, has room for growth. Now, not everyone in your life is going to leave just because a few old friends did. I consider myself very blessed because I have a couple of friends that no matter how long we spend apart from each other, nothing changes. We just pick up right where we left off, fill each other in on the adventures of our life since the last time we talked, and that is that. We’re right back on track and our friendship is just as strong as always. It’s not awkward or tense, it’s comfortable and uplifting. I value these friends more than they will ever know. If you have friends like this, never let them go. Like I stated before, sometimes, God uses people as temporary tools to help shape us, but He also gives us people as a foundation. That’s is where these friends I just mentioned fall in. They are there no matter what and it would take some serious equipment to tear them out of our lives. These people never tear us down, they are steadfast and show us love and forgiveness no matter what, and they are always honest with us, even when the truth is so NOT what we want to hear. A little tough love never hurt anyone. Cherish every friend you have for the time you have them, and when God pulls them away from you, don’t try to hold onto them. He knows best and has a plan, and if they were meant to be they will be, or they will come back. There’s a saying that goes, “let them go, if it’s meant to be, they’ll come back. If they don’t, they were never yours in the first place.” I strongly belive in this saying, because I’ve experienced in my life. It’s so true, and once they come back, that’s when you give your everything to hold onto them. When you know, you know. You’ll know, whenever the time is right, who was only supposed to be in your life for a season, and who is there as your foundation. Try to find peace with whatever happens. Inner peace is the key to happiness and it’s something you have complete control over. I hope you find comfort if you are grieving the loss of a friend who walked away from you, and I hope you find peace as well very soon. I also hope, that if you have a foundation friend, you value them. It’s all going to be okay. With much love,
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Angel Holley
12/23/2017 12:46:28 pm
Very well said. I have a few foundation friends. You have seen firsthand through me how important those friends are. Love you honey 💕
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Carla Moore
12/23/2017 01:07:43 pm
You are one wise young lady that I am so blessed to have had the opportunity to cross paths with! May your journey be neverending and your burdens few.
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Gene Wishard
12/23/2017 03:13:47 pm
This is a very interesting blog. And very truthful. At my age, and over the years, I have lost lots of friends. Some through me moving and leaving my friends behind, some through death and some because of conflicts that could not be worked through. And it does hurt. I am looking forward to your next blot. May God bless you.
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