New beginnings1/20/2018 Happy Saturday! I hope your week was super fabulous and that the upcoming one be just as great, if not better! This weeks topic was submitted by a friend of mine named Ethan and I promised to give him credit for the topic idea. Hey Ethan! Thanks for reading and thanks for the blog topic! If any of y’all have topics that you would like for me to talk about, feel free to leave a comment or send me an email through the contact tab on my blog. Also, if you want first dibs to the content I post, sign up for my email list!! I leave a form at the end of every blog and all you have to do is type in your email and hit submit. It’s super simple and I appreciate each one of you who took the time to do so! As many (hopefully everyone, actually) of you have come to notice that it’s a new year! 2018! That’s so crazy because ever since kindergarten I’ve had this year in the sights of my horizon because it’s a huge milestone year for me, since I graduate High School in about 4 short months! Talk about a “new beginning” once I get that diploma. However, I’m not going to focus on the whole graduation topic right now. New beginnings can be awfully scary, but most of the time beneficial. Sometimes, people choose to start over fresh and rebuild themselves after being torn down for so long. It happens all the time. I know people who started over after spending years being unhappy with the relationship they’re in, unhappy with their job, unhappy in a friendship that ultimately tore them down rather than building them up; the list could go on. The thing is, all these situations have something in common. They are like one another because they all end in a choice to change your life and start over in order to heal yourself. It’s a personal decision to become the person you sit around wishing you could become. There comes a point where enough is enough and you decide, “I don’t want to be unhappy anymore.” Sometimes it takes a short time before you realize that change is necessary, sometimes it can take nearly 2 decades or more. No matter how long it takes, it’s never too late. New beginnings are beautiful, despite the anxiety that often comes along with the healing. Of course, at first things may be painful. Change isn’t convenient, no matter how necessary it may be for your personal growth, but having hope is what it takes to get through. I’ve talked to many people about their sorrows, and one common thing I’ve noticed is that they don’t ever see things getting better for them. The “light at the end of the tunnel” simply isn’t there in their eyes, and it holds them hostage to their emotions and situations that are causing harm to their well being. I used to be that person. Then one day I decided enough was enough and I got help. Now, I look back on where I used to be in my life and where I am now, and it’s crazy how different things are; how happy I am now compared to only one short year ago. My happiness is due to the choice I made to find a new beginning. I know people who have left marriages that did nothing but tear them down and abuse them, or had continuous unfaithful interactions within the marriage, that had to make the decision that they weren’t going to put up with being treated like a door mat any longer. So new beginning, there they went! Now they are much happier than they have ever been and things worked out beneficially. Just because everything is okay now, does not mean trials weren’t present. Leaving something like that is very hard financially, physically and absolutely emotionally. The thing is, just because change is scary and things hurt at the moment, does not mean that it’s going to be like that forever. Life has a way of working out, and things always get better. Life is kind of like an elevator. It goes up, but also goes down. However, there are buttons in that thing that you simply just push and it takes you to the floor you want to be on. When you start realizing the elevator you’re on is going down, pay attention. Close attention. Pain is the BEST teacher. Then push that button and work your way back up. Even if you have to stop at every single floor before you get to the top. Dont lose hope either because life is like an eveator but simultaneously is the elevator and will carry you to the floor you need to be on. All you have to do is decide to push that button then be patient for the arrival of where you want to be. Just because you’re hurting now, doesn’t mean it will be like this a year from now. Just because you have lost all hope, doesn’t mean it’s gone forever. Just because you’re afraid, doesn’t mean that choosing to start over isn’t an option. People can try to help you and be there for you as hard as humanly possible, but in the scheme of things, it is YOU that has to want to heal YOURSELF. Can people still help guide you and carry you when you’re too weak? Of course! But nobody can heal you or start over for you. You have to put in the work and help yourself by making the decision that this isn’t the life you want to live in anymore. Then you begin again. However, my advice to you is no matter how many times you decide to start over, please don’t forget what it was like to hurt. Don’t forget what the situation you decided to change was like. Like I stated earlier, pain is the greatest teacher. Everything happens for a reason, I believe, and therefore, trying to bury the past is pointless. You can’t run away from the things you’ve been through because they make us who we are. Instead, embrace the fact that you were in a bad place and now you have decided to move along to find better days. Stay humble about the trials you go through because within everything bad, there is good that comes out of it, even if it takes a years before we realize the lesson that our sorrow was whispering in our ear the whole time. Some advice my brother, who is quite honestly my best friend, gave me almost a year ago when I was upset about something that ended up working out just a few months later was, “Just stay positive because you never know what could happen.” Its simple advice, but nonetheless true. Life has a way of working out. Now to change course a little... Sometimes we are forced into a new beginning because of things outside of our control such as death, sickness, loss of jobs, the other person deciding they don’t want to be in a relationship with you any longer, traumatic life events that you couldn’t have planned for even if you tried, etc... Just because we didn’t make the conscious decision to start over, doesn’t mean that it won’t be helpful in the long run. Again, things happen for a reason. One day you may look back on the things that came crumbling down, causing you to unwillingly start over, and realize that it all worked out in the end. That person who broke your heart will just be a memory of the past and you may notice the person you are with now will show you a love like no other, and everything makes sense. It’s clear now why things didn’t work out. It was a way to make room for the good to come. No mater how much it hurts, the pain can’t even compare to the joy thats is coming. That job that you were let go from? Fled from your life to give you the opportunity to do something that makes you even happier. Something that fits the person you are today, rather than the person you were when you were hired at that old job. Graduating high school? Yeah it’s scary being thrown out into the real world, and it may suck at first, but for 1.) It’s inevitable. We all move past the age of high school and have to “adult” whether we want to or not, and 2.) life has so much more in store than just sitting in a classroom all day. You have control. You make the choices that take your life where you want it to go. Even when things try to knock you off the road, you have the choice to find another route to ultimately get to the destination you want to be. Don’t be afraid of new beginnings, because no matter how anxiety invoking they may be, life has a way of working out. With love,
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Angel Holley
1/20/2018 03:48:27 pm
Thank you. I so needed this. Right now with a whole lot of new beginnings for me this year. It’s going to be great but sometimes I find myself allowing it to pull me down. The new location for my business in the long run is going to be the best thing that has happened to my shop.
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1/23/2018 07:50:21 pm
Hey Lizzie.
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